How self-love improves your relationships.

Welcome back to our blog, we are so happy to have you here! 

This Valentine’s we want to send you a kind reminder -love yourself first-. Always and Forever. 

Why and what does it mean? Is it selfish? Absolutely not.

Before you start working on any kind of relationship in your life i.e. work, romantic, friendship, etc. it is an absolute must to work on the relationship you have with yourself first. 

This will allow you to know who you are and what do you aspire to, which ultimately leads to knowing what you are comfortable with, what do you accept from other people, and what are your boundaries. This will assure you that any relationship in your life is a healthy one.

What do I mean by that? Well, the minute you start to love yourself, you can love someone else. You can choose someone not because you need them, but because you want them. You can live without them; you just don’t want to. 

The minute you start to love yourself, you assure that your friendships are based on honesty, support, and love. There is no room for judgment. Do yourself a favour, take a step back and re-evaluate. Again, it comes down to being comfortable enough in your skin that you do not need approval from your friends. You can live without them; you just don’t want to.

The minute you start to love yourself, you respect yourself enough to love what you do. I do not particularly agree with the saying “Find what you love, and you don’t have to work a day in your life.” I think that you do have to work no matter what, I believe in strong work ethic, passion, and going the extra mile. It comes down to knowing yourself enough to realise that what you do is worth the hustle. You could live without doing this; you just don’t want to. 

The perception of ourselves is based on our childhood experiences and continues to be influenced in our adulthood by implicit and explicit cues received from everything and everyone around us. The good thing is, that we, humans, are in complete control of changing this. Every single day. Across the years, I came across a few self-love practices that I found quite helpful. Today, I am sharing them with you. I hope you’ll find them at least as helpful as I did. 😊

  1. Be kind to yourself. Forgive, forget and move on when needed.
  2. Accept yourself. If you don’t like something about yourself, change it. If you can’t change it, accept it. The most beautiful things in life are not perfect. The most interesting and beautiful people are the confident ones.
  3. Be kind to other people. As often as you can, wherever you can, for as long as you can.
  4. Practice gratitude. As often as you can, wherever you can, for as long as you can.
  5. Embrace and recognise your qualities and your wins.
  6. Always strive for something more. Continuously look for something new you can learn, something better you can do.

We’re well aware that self-love is not an easy journey, but, oh, boy, it is so worth it! Remember, our incredible brain is malleable, able to change and adapt according to our experiences and practices. So, give it a go, implement it as a way of living, and see how every relationship in your life will change.

We hope you enjoyed today’s article!

What does self-love mean to you? Drop a comment and tell us what you think!

Next week on the same topic, we’re talking about “Victim Mentality”. Keep posted!

We wish you an amazing Valentine’s Day. Don’t forget to celebrate love every single day!

With so much 💗,

Behaviour Hackers Team

Author: Ingrid Constantin.

Published by IngridC

Co-Director and Head of Research @Behaviour Hackers

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